With Warm Gloves On

I'm starting to enjoy these nights in. Having your own space (that's
also close to work and bars) can bring out an appreciation for
solitude. I've never really understood exactly why so many men loved
choosing solidarity rather than companionship, but I definitely do
now.

But having torn ligaments in your ankle can also help you understand
that as well. So being alone has been good. And it's forcing me to
really think with all my extra time.

Our society REALLY doesn't understand the full extent of being alone,
though. Between texts, twitter, etc., we're all still connected. But
even before technology, we all still depended on some sort of comfort
to get us through.

There are so many misconceptions about dependency today. Growing up,
I've always been taught to be independent. To make sure and acquire
the skills to "take care" of myself before I depended on someone else.

But whether you drown yourself in dates or drown yourself in DVDs to
watch every night, you're still dependent on something. "Sex and the
City" had it half right. Those nights where they didn't have their
men, they still had each other. Being dependent gets such a bad rap.
We all need some sort of comforting to get us through. We're humans
after all, not robots (most of us, anyway). The only difference
between depending on a boyfriend and a friend is the word "boy"
afterall.

Sometimes, depending on a man is a much better experience, I think.
Women can be horrible listeners, always interjecting with their own
experiences. I've never really had a conversation with a man who was
of a mature stature, that would interject with their own irrelevant
experiences before I had the chance to finish my story. I can't tell
you how many time that has happened with a girlfriend. We have to
admit it, we're worse listeners then men. Actually, most men that I
have had meaningful conversations with just listen. Most even respond.
And a select few actually had something important to add.

I just feel like having amazing experiences is what life is all about.
But would you rather experience them alone (this question isn't for
you, Carlos) or with someone special? I bet even the most jaded woman
could tell you that deep, deep down, they would rather experience an
amazing trip or an exciting event with someone they deeply cared
about. And to be honest, I'd rather be at the Caribbean with a 6'3'
man and no shirt on then with one of my girlfriends (we'll be looking
for men anyway, might as well be with someone I know). But that's for
obvious reasons.

Everyone is different, that's for sure. But fundamentally, we all want
to love and be loved. By what or whom is up to you. And I refuse to
judge anyone that spends their time either quietly obsessing over
their new guy or loudly obsessing over their new book.



I watched a PBS American Experience episode over the Kennedys last
night. Since their existences were a little before my time and they've
always been known to be so intriguing, my eyes were glued to the
television...and for three hours. I definitely recommend watching it.
I'm so much more appreciative of their personal and political
contributions (except for Teddy's accident, of course) and definitely
think if you are in any way curious about it that you should watch it.



I'm so ready for grad school.


And another one for the ladies...
I watched a Suze Orman special (cause she knows so much about money
and I don't) and here are the eight characteristics to being a
successful woman:

1. Harmony
which leads to
2. Balance
which leads to
3. Courage
which leads to
4. Generosity
which leads to
5. Happiness
which leads to
6. Cleanliness
which leads to
7. Beauty
which ultimately leads to
8. Wisdom

Ya, you should watch more PBS. And then tear your ligaments in your
ankle to make you stay and watch it. You can ALWAYS depend on PBS to
be there for you, and you most definitely should.